Ready to Move (locally, that is)

Years ago I blogged about how I did not want to move from our house…we built our house almost 30 years ago.  It’s been through a lot of different phases.  Marty (my husband) has had our kitchen remodelled three or four times (no, he’s not a cook nor am I).  We’ve finished our basement to make an additional bedroom, gym, bathroom, and family room down there.  (There’s a lock on the door, so overnight guest were sometimes “inadvertently” locked down there – I crack myself up.)  We’ve added a bigger dining room.  We’ve changed the siding, the color, etc.  But I’m ready to move on.

We live so far from everything.  When Marty was working, his drive was five minutes to his office.  And I always said I’d be keeping this house because of my hill in my backyard for my grandkids to sled down as I had with our own kids.  Now I am tired.  I’m tired of the long commutes.  All my doctors (a lot!), my hair appointments (there is a lot of upkeep on these greys), my grandson, good food, are all at least 30 minutes away.

Not only the commute, but my knees are asking for a one-story home.  And the only room I’m ever in, is my bedroom.  And I’ve come to realize I can bring my bed to wherever I choose.  I could not have made this decision three months ago! After this last year of deep depression, I am ready for a new outlook.

The memories which have held me tight to this house have faded (probably medication induced, but it’s fine – and necessary).  I will not rush, since I know I’m still prone to ups and downs.  But if that right house or lot (preferably a lot) comes along, I’m taking it!

Pay it Forward

Sarah

 

 

 

High-Functioning Anxiety

I had never heard of this term before.  My friend, Bonnie, sent me an article with this title asking me, “sound familiar?”.  It was me.  Totally me.  Google “high-functioning anxiety” or “high-functioning depression” – that’s been me my whole life, until a year ago, when I hit the brick wall and became nonfunctioning!   But now I’m back to, well, “functioning”.

The perfect description of having high functioning anxiety/depression is that commercial  for Rexulti (which I take).  rexulti image

You present this persona of someone who is OK, but you’re not. I wasn’t “just sad”, I wasn’t “just nervous”.   The ones who knew I was not OK were my husband, my kids, my doctor, and my closest of friends (well, and my poor therapist).  Most of my friends saw my ubiquitous smiley face I presented but thought I was just a little cooky and worried a lot.  I am both of those latter two!

Interestingly enough, if you followed my blog/book from years ago, I had intractable migraines.  My internist and neurologist both said, “which came first, the migraine or the depression? ” After talking with my new psychiatrist, the depression and anxiety have been there all along.  So the migraines are part of my depression, I guess.

The migraines are good now! I only get them about, five, six times a month now, and my “rescue drugs” help, along with my two preventative drugs I take daily for them.  It’s all so weird – don’t you think I should donate my brain to science when I’m finally gone? What a hey day those scientists would have in their lab!

My friend told me May is Mental Health Awareness Month. So here ya go. I’m educating you.

Pay it Forward,

Sarah

 

 

The Start of this Episode!

Ok, here we go from the beginning.  For those of you who are following because of the tag of “depression”,  you’ll get it.  For those of  you following because you know me, you’ve lived it with me!

A little over a year ago, my tongue started to flicker in my mouth.  Turns out it was a rare side effect (Tardive Dyskinesia) from one of my antidepressants I had been on.  (Of course, I get the rare side effects, I’m a “sensitive” person, lol.)   So I had to go off the medication that had worked wonderfully for me straight away.  It put me in worse than a “blue funk” I normally get into.  My wonderful internist tried a different drug to no avail, and he finally said, “time for a psychiatrist”, which I had been fighting like crazy, (not a pun) as I have so much respect and trust and feelings of safeness with him.  Meanwhile, I had been bumped up on one drug to try to compensate for the loss of the one I had to be taken off. (For those of you who aren’t familiar, many of us with depression take more than one drug for it.)

I became ultra hyper, to say the least.  We were moving our daughter from Colorado to Buffalo for a few months before her wedding, and all I could do was pace, or, take a Xanax, and then collapse from anxiety.  Andrea’s caption of this pic, “Moving broke Mom” .moving broke mom

So I got into a psychiatrist asap. (If you can get into a psychiatrist soon, it’s a red flag.)  She was Russian, which provided an ethnic flair to her handling of me.  Andrea (our daughter) came with me.  The psychiatrist was not for me. She would throw her arms up in the air and say, “What I do with you????” Her morals and standards on life were way different than mine.   She wanted me to start ECT ( electroconvulsive therapy), “electric shock” from the olden days!  She claimed it was no big deal – out patient now!  Yipee!  I refused, as it would require me to get out of bed for many weeks every day of the week to complete it.  Plus, I would probably have memory loss of my daughter’s wedding and my grandson’s precious last six months.  And plus again, I was petrified about it as my mother had it twice, and it did NOT help her.  You’re conjuring up “One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest”, aren’t you?  Apparently it’s easier and nicer (?) now, they claim.

Long story short, after nine months of trying different SNRIs, SSRIs, mood stabilizers, off-label use pills, I had lost 35 lbs, and still could not stop crying 24/7 or get out of bed.  I was sick (the barfs, nausea, etc.) all the time (the depression itself caused this as there are serotonin receptors in your stomach, and the medication side effects contributed). I carried a barf bag with me at all times. Again, I can’t explain the nonstop crying I couldn’t control.  Marty (my husband) would find me in the fetal position in the kitchen crying, take me upstairs, feed me my xanax, and I’d sleep.  But only to wake up to do the whole thing over again.  Depression is so debilitating.

I was in therapy with a psychologist every other week, where I sat there for 50 minutes and cried.  She was so worried about me.   The therapy itself didn’t really help me other than it got me out of the house and from the safety of my bed to the safety of her couch, where nobody could say something stupid to me.  She could soothe me.

I had to take a leave of absence from my volunteer position at the local cancer hospital, but my husband, Marty, still made me still babysit twice a week for my grandson, which saved my life….he kept me going, as did my family.  He is my little blessing.

More to come….

So Much to Say

OK, It’s going to take me a while to figure out how to blog again.  So much has changed since I was last on that I can’t even figure out the year I last blogged.  So much has happened.

Long-story short, I guess you can say I went off the grid – in the olden days – they’d call it a “nervous breakdown”, I think.  Whatever.  It happened.  I’m not embarrassed nor ashamed by it.   It wasn’t pretty.   I couldn’t help it.

I had to find a psychiatrist fast, and the ones you get into fast are stinky cheese, man.  It took me months and months , nine months to a year, to get straightened out and to get into a great psychiatrist.  My friends stayed near, except for one, for whom I became a millstone around her neck.  That’s ok.  My family was the best.  I’m still a work in progress, but I’m excited to fill you all in on my goings on each week or so.  I missed you and your feedback.

Pay it Forward!

Sarah